Adult toys such as handcuffs and silky blindfolds can help. Being handcuffed and blindfolded while sprawled out naked on the bed while your lover has his way with you can certainly add some sizzle to any sex life. The feeling of having no control is enough to arouse most men and women, assuming of course that you feel safe and comfortable with your lover.

Push his buttons believe it or not men have more than one button they like pushed. If you haven’t discovered his sensitive spots it’s time to do so. Try the back of his neck or behind his ears, the inside of the uppermost part of his thigh usually has a button too.

Men love their women who know how to give him a good massage on their bodies with oil.  Try giving him a good massage and I'm sure you will turn him on, he'll enjoy and love it, you need practice and I’m sure he will not protest!

Allow him to experiment on you, surely you must have some sensitive spots he hasn’t discovered yet, you may not even know where they are. Be adventurous and just let loose.

There is something to be said for the 10 minute quickie which is better performed anywhere except the bed! The element of excitement you will get from having sex in the bathroom or the kitchen is enough to make you reconsider the old notion of a quickie not meaning much.

Have sex in the morning or afternoon you can achieve the same results whether the sun is shining or the moon is beaming. The same is true for outdoors if your backyard is private why not throw down a blanket under the oak tree or see if that hammock can really hold 300 pounds!

If you think this will keep your sex life sizzle then why not try it! Your sex life has been a bit boring all along and you just never realized it!

Boost your man's ego and makes him feel good. Start out with a nice compliment “You look great today!” “I love your shirt it makes your eyes sparkle.” You get the idea just a simple sweet compliment is all you need to get the ball rolling.

The second phase of talking dirty can include more descriptive and sexy talk. Such as “I love your shirt but I’d love it even more if it was on the floor!” “You look so hot today I want to ravish your body.” You have used the same compliment and just added a suggestion to it. This is a very effective way to set the mood for a night of passion.

Make your compliments more descriptive and add a few things you would like to do to your lover and keep him wanting more. Climb into bed and spend a few minutes telling each other dirty stories, if you have a book of erotic stories you can take turns reading to each other.

This will spice up your sex life like you would not believe. Talking dirty always makes the sex better, the better talker you are the better the sex can be!

Think about which method you want to pick in order to talk dirty – do you want to talk to him with the help of photos, with the help of written notes, or perhaps use both the mediums to turn him on.

If you have pre-planned that you want to enjoy a cozy night with your boyfriend, then you could begin talking dirty in the morning and continue exciting him throughout the day. It will keep your lover glued to you and keep him busy thinking about you. An interesting way to talk dirty without a single word during early hours is just leaving a note in his briefcase.

In that note, you can talk your heart out! You can transform your sensual feelings into words and even toss phrases with some exciting words. One such example could be “Guess what I have planned for you tonight?” This statement will continuously tease him throughout the day and he will keep wondering what you have planned for him at night. In fact, this is a great start for a perfect romantic night for the two of you.

After a few hours, you could send him a short text message. Emailing him is also a good option. You can write down what you feel for him or simply let him know that you are waiting eagerly for him to return home. Another great idea to talk dirty without a single word is to send him your picture, where you have posed naughtily, with a sexy smile.

You can even try to meet him for lunch, where you can give him a sensuous kiss, gently stroking behind his ears and back. This will give him the right signals about your intentions. He will be enthralled and turned on! In the evening, you can send him another naughty email or text message. Moreover, when he returns home, give him a shower.

These activities are enough to talk dirty without a single word.

There are just a few tips to be taught and you are on your way to being a dirty talking queen and will have your guy ardent with new-found desire.

The first tip to remember is that guys are very visual. It only takes ashortf visual to pop into a mans head and he's prepared and ready to go. While talking dirty use words that go along with the visuals your man will have raging in his head. This not only gets him hot with your words, but also the picture it creates in his head.

Bring his attention to your body while saying, "It makes me so hot when you look at my..." Or, lay a hand on him and ask, "Does it feel good right here?" He will probably be so turned on he will hardly be able to get out an answer. Change things up. Have fun. Your guy will love the teasing and suggestive jargon more than you can imagine.

Another tip to remember when learning to talk dirty is to keep things straightforward. Men don't usually catch on to subtle words and gestures. It's best if you tell him exactly what you want and how you want it done. Men just don't seem to be able to figure out what you want by subtle proposition or body language. Not only will this let your guy know what turns you on without any question, but the directness of your language will also be a source of an erotic turn on to him.

And lastly, remember to play into your guy's ego. We all want to feel appreciated. Men love to feel manly and sexually skilled. Keep your compliments real, but be generous in your praise of any of his sexual undertakings and attributes that you particularly enjoy. Say to him, "You feel so big," or "I love the way you kiss my...With your..." Your guy will eat up the compliments while at the same time will be loving the new, dirty talking vixen you have become.

Article written by Mariel Wineberg

Generally, people say that actions speak more than words. Therefore, if you want to be a good lover, then you should learn how to talk dirty to your boyfriend. If you initiate talk dirty with your boyfriend, you should follow it through with loving actions as well.

For example, if you tell him that you have planned a romantic evening with him and later forget about the promise, then he will be disappointed. He may meet up with other women who have a little more energy than you do. 

Analyze what is the right time to talk dirty to your boyfriend alone? If you are unable to match your actions with your words, then you should at least ensure that your boyfriend understands what your intentions are. This will excite him in the love making with you and enjoy a riveting evening together.

Whispering sweet nothings in his ear is extremely helpful in bringing your man into the mood and setting up a romantic evening. Tell him that a secret surprise is waiting for him during night. This will keep him anticipating, and excited.
 
Another point to keep in mind while talking dirty is the choosing the right time and place to begin the conversation. For example, if you begin talking dirty while his favorite team is losing in a football game, it might not work for him. Similarly, if you try to turn him on when he is thinking about how to fix a problem at office, he might not appreciate it.

It is essential that you should understand the mood of your man and talk to him at the right time.

But, the escalation we discussed is per line and per phrase, but what about the escalation of the ENTIRE dirty talking experience?

Look at it like this...

A man's sex drive works exactly like a bottle rocket.

You light his fire, blast him off, and then watch him explode. This 3 step process takes any man from not even thinking about sex, through to a mind blowing orgasm, and it all starts with words.

Step 1) Light His Fire - Snag his wandering attention into thinking about
having sex with you, by making a comment about how horny he makes you, and describing the affect he is having on your body face-to-face, through text messaging, or on the phone.

This will kick start his "inner caveman" to start craving a taste of your body by focusing on the part of your body he likes the most.

As Devian discusses in Dirty Dialogue, sparking his interest is the KEY to starting dirty talk

2) Blast Him Off - Work his excited mind up by teasing him with things you might let him do to you, if he's a good little boy.  Give him something to lust after by painting pleasure pictures in his mind of what could happen if you surrendered to his primal desire.  Make sure to remind him that you're only this horny because of him, and it's entirely his fault for making you act the way you are.

This will start escalating the pace of his orgasm by expressing your desire to please him more and more as time goes by.

3)  Watch Him Explode - Stroke his ego and make his orgasm a team sport.  Treat his approaching orgasm as if you were his kinky cheerleader and encourage him to go faster and harder for you because it turns you on.  Command that he Cum for you - and only you - harder than he has ever Cum before.

Ride out his wave and show him how much you really care by experiencing the excitement of his pleasure as your own satisfaction, and he will be happier with you then you've ever seen!

Watching him explode is the best part!  This is the general escalation of dirty talk.  You got to get his attention and thinking sexually, then build anticipation, then finally deliver.

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You start talking dirty to your man.  You take action and confidently whisper a tantalizing phrase.  He responds to your dirty phrase and looks at you with fire in his eyes.

Now what?

If you're like most girls, you WORRY so much about the "dirty talk phrase" that you give no thought to what you'll say once things start heating up. 

The truth is this is NOT your fault!  It seems like the Internet is FILLED with products that ONLY concentrate on approaching OR using weird, canned dirty phrases.

So you've probably haven't seen anything about one of the FUNDAMENTAL ingredients to dirty talk:

HOW TO TALK DIRTY TO YOUR MAN

You see, your ability to talk dirty is directly related to ability to arouse the interest of your man.

Unfortunately, most products COMPLETELY ignore this aspect of arousal OR minimally cover the basics of talking dirty.  So up till now, you probably haven't had a chance to learn the VITAL skills necessary for talking dirty
to a man.

About a month ago, I came across a resource called "Dirty Dialogue:  A Good Girl's Guide To Being Bad" written by a guy named Devian Day.

What makes this product so special?

Well inside Devian's system, you'll find a step-by-step blueprint for creating dirty dialogue that ACTUALLY help you with talking dirty the way he wants! 

This goes beyond  typical "giggle & banter" products that ALL basically say the same thing. 

One of the things that makes 'Dirty Dialogue' REALLY stand out is the amount of time that Devian spends on how MEN WORK.  He doesn't rehash gimmicky techniques that feel corny.  Instead he teaches you how to talk dirty in a NORMAL manner that's congruent to your inner-self.

And once you know the SECRETS to dirty talk, you'll be able to create arousal in your man ANY time you want.

So if you're interested in learning the RIGHT way to talk dirty to men, I recommend you go here: http://tinyurl.com/y8v8f4z

1. Do what suits you the best; always be natural. Trying to force a role on your self will not work in your favor.

2. Use the kind of language that you are comfortable with. Even simple English can be used sensuously. You can move into more explicit words when you feel more adventurous about dirty talking.

3. Agree with your partner before hand, not to laugh at each other if someone slips up, or if it doesn’t work out. Humiliating or degrading one another is not acceptable under any circumstances.

4. Make it a joyful activity. Laugh, giggle, whisper and enjoy yourselves.

Dirty talking is not rocket science. It is something that can grow on you if you are open to it. And once you start, you will be amazed at the possibilities that open up in your relationship.

It may come naturally or you may need to take some time getting used to it.  So if you're having trouble, take a reality check:

Does learning how to talk dirty fill you with apprehension? Sit back and view the scene clearly. Where does your fear from?

Is it because you're not sure what your boyfriend’s reactions may be?

Is the problem with you or your partner? Does your boyfriend want you to seduce him with word, but you are not comfortable with the idea?

Being sexually adventurous has to come from within you and not forced. So if you are being forced into it because of what your partner wants, you will feel very unsure of what you are doing.

So make sure you are happy with what you are doing before you go ahead. Getting used to the idea first, helps:

One way to get over your reluctance to start is to read as much as you can about it. Familiarize yourself with the idea.

Once you are used to it, you might find it surprisingly easy to start. And once you start, you will definitely be surprised at how liberating and enjoyable dirty talking can be.

So where can you get tips and advice on talking dirty?

Try online information. If you browse through relationship self help sites, you will find dirty talking listed as one of the top ways to bring excitement back into your love life. You will find all the information you need easily and without any trouble.

Try an erotic novel. This is a method I can highly recommend. Women often find the written word more erotic than in-your-face Technicolor because they can use their imagination more. You will find it easier to pick up words, phrases or even entire scenarios from this talk dirty guide.

First pay attention to him by that I mean listen to him when he talks even if you really don’t care who wins the World Series and have no idea what a nine iron is used for let alone care. If you love him you have to be willing to listen and show interest in what he says. You too expect that he listens to you when you ramble on about Aunt Betty’s poor eyesight and how she hit yet another parked car! The woman is 89 she shouldn’t even have a license. The point is listening to your man shows interest and love.

Second if he invites you to accompany him to a golf course – GO! He’s trying to share a part of his life with you that you are not involved in. That shows commitment and you will finally figure out what a nine iron is used for!

Third appreciate his opinions even if you don’t agree with them at least hear him out and maybe you’ll see his point and find you have more in common than you thought. He may not agree with some of your opinions but more importantly does he listen? You know he does at least most of the time and this shows his respect for you.

Fourth when you are in the bedroom, keep your sex life interesting and passionate. Be willing to watch a porn movie with him if he asks or maybe you could shock the crap out of him and turn one on! There is something about a woman who enjoys watching porn with her lover; this really turns a man on. What turns him on even more is when she’s willing to try some different funky positions to please him.

Fifth never make him feel like sex is something you are doing just to make him happy.  If he knows you’re not enjoying it anymore then he will feel like a failure, just like you would if the tables were turned. If there’s a problem in the bedroom do fix it!

Men really are not that different than women and these five ways are pretty much guaranteed to make your man happy.