But, the escalation we discussed is per line and per phrase, but what about the escalation of the ENTIRE dirty talking experience?

Look at it like this...

A man's sex drive works exactly like a bottle rocket.

You light his fire, blast him off, and then watch him explode. This 3 step process takes any man from not even thinking about sex, through to a mind blowing orgasm, and it all starts with words.

Step 1) Light His Fire - Snag his wandering attention into thinking about
having sex with you, by making a comment about how horny he makes you, and describing the affect he is having on your body face-to-face, through text messaging, or on the phone.

This will kick start his "inner caveman" to start craving a taste of your body by focusing on the part of your body he likes the most.

As Devian discusses in Dirty Dialogue, sparking his interest is the KEY to starting dirty talk

2) Blast Him Off - Work his excited mind up by teasing him with things you might let him do to you, if he's a good little boy.  Give him something to lust after by painting pleasure pictures in his mind of what could happen if you surrendered to his primal desire.  Make sure to remind him that you're only this horny because of him, and it's entirely his fault for making you act the way you are.

This will start escalating the pace of his orgasm by expressing your desire to please him more and more as time goes by.

3)  Watch Him Explode - Stroke his ego and make his orgasm a team sport.  Treat his approaching orgasm as if you were his kinky cheerleader and encourage him to go faster and harder for you because it turns you on.  Command that he Cum for you - and only you - harder than he has ever Cum before.

Ride out his wave and show him how much you really care by experiencing the excitement of his pleasure as your own satisfaction, and he will be happier with you then you've ever seen!

Watching him explode is the best part!  This is the general escalation of dirty talk.  You got to get his attention and thinking sexually, then build anticipation, then finally deliver.

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Dirty talking is something that is simple to do. Though it may seem intimidating at first thought, it is a way of multiplying the pleasure of your sex life with very little investment.

Just like dirty talking can enhance the pleasure of sex, the mood and the ambience you set can enhance the pleasure of dirty talking itself.

So, what are the things you can do to set the mood to launch yourself onto an enjoyable ride?

Start Out Right:

* Make sure you are in the mood before you start dirty talking for the first time. If you are uncomfortable with what you are doing, you will sound forced and stilted. Practice when you are alone. If you watch yourself in a mirror, you will be able to see just how effective you are. You could also try erotic books or pictures to get him in the mood as well as learn a few tips.

* One very important thing is to be aware of your partner’s preferences. If possible, ask right out. If you are not sure, start very gently with non verbal gasps and moans to indicate your pleasure. Go on to sexy compliments and sentences like “Mmmm that feels so good. Do it again!”

* Watch your partner’s reactions. Once you have stepped over the initial speed breakers and eased yourself into it, get comfortable with what you are saying. Watch for the effects your words have. Even if he is silent, you can still judge how he is taking it by his body language. If you find that he is getting excited, step up the pace.

Once You Know You Are On The Right Track, Step It Up!

* If you see your partner getting excited by your dirty talk, then you know he likes it. Now it’s time to figure out how to make the most of it. Get more explicit when you tell him what you want him to do to you. Tell him in no uncertain words about what you like to do with him.

* Get your partner involved in the action. Ask him if he likes what you are doing, or if he wants more… Get him to start talking without even thinking about it. Then you can start asking him to describe to you his desires in greater detail.

* Be open minded enough to be able to laugh off goof ups and never humiliate each other. Discuss any turn offs before hand to avoid disaster.

* Start introducing dirtier words and phrases as you gain more confidence. Use milder ones to tease and the cruder ones for when the action is the hottest. You will also give him permission to expand his boundaries when he knows what is ok with you.

This simple plan is sure to get you successfully started on dirty talking! As you go on and find yourself becoming more and more confident, you will find yourself becoming more inventive and adventurous in your quest to enhance the power of how to talk dirty.

Putting this one doubt, about how your partner will react to dirty talking, to rest will make it much easier to start. You can either ask him about how he feels or you’re your own conclusions based on observing his reactions to dirty taking in movies and so on. Once you have settled this issue, you will have a lot more confidence to start.

Once you are sure he likes dirty talking, go slow to begin with. Pick up the clues as you go along. Be kind to yourself and learn to laugh and enjoy yourself even if you are a little clumsy at times.

* Start with compliments and heart felt praise. Making it sound sexy depends on how you put it. 

* Tell him “You look hot” and he will get a kick out of it. Instead, tell him “You look so hot, I am beginning to melt” when you are looking into his eyes and running your fingers lightly up his thigh, and you have grabbed his attention real hard!

* When you dirty talk you want to let him know how much he turns you on; how much you want him and just how he makes you feel. Making him feel adored and wanted is a powerful bonding factor. 

* If you catch him unawares with erotic verbal signals at odd times of the day, he will be thinking of you and waiting for the moment when he will be able to come back to you again.

* Getting your lover to participate and open up his fantasies to you is simple too. Begin by asking questions that he can answer with a “yes” or “no”. When dirty talk is shared and enjoyed together, you can explore its full potential and bring in a healthy openness into your relationship.

You should both agree on not using words or scenarios that may be offensive to each other. It is important to understand that fantasy is fantasy. Most people never want to enact those fantasies in real life. However, unless you are absolutely sure you will not be misunderstood, be cautious about sharing fantasies about group sex, same sex, sex with strangers, etc. Such fantasies can be extremely erotic to share, but only if your partner finds them so too and completely understands you.

Safe dirty talking is telling him what you want him to do, what you want to do to him, asking him if he likes what you are doing and so on. Start with this and work in more elements as you go along.

Couples today are more relaxed and only too happy to discover new pathways in their love-lives with each other. They are well informed and aware of who they are and what they want. And they are definitely interested in exploring all the options that are available to further their desires and enhance their pleasures in each other.

Should You Panic?
But even the modern woman with all her freedom, might be tempted to hit the panic button when boyfriend wants me to talk dirty to him.

You might freeze up in nervousness. You might wonder how you could ever carry off a thing like that… But is talking dirty such a big deal?

Relax! Once you understand why your guy loves dirty talking, you’ll find it the simplest thing to do.

The Secret about Why He Loves Dirty Talk
When it comes to talking dirty, you just need to one little secret about your man to put yourself totally at ease!

If you have been with him long enough, you probably already know this secret! It is just that you haven’t recognized it as the fundamental truth that makes dirty talking so attractive to him.

So what is the big secret that makes dirty talking such a big hit with men? Simple! Man is a very basic animal when it comes to sex!

Men don’t really need all the romance and finesse that women need, to get turned on. Ask any man and he would fervently swear “Pass the raw, basic stuff; and dish it out in plenty!”

What Does He Consider Dirty?
When you get to talk dirty to him, forget the wishy-washy stuff of old romance novels. There is no point in whispering things that just might make him start snoring.

When he wants you to talk dirty, he wants you to break the mould! He wants to see your wild side. He wants the thrill of knowing he can loosen up your strings in front of him. Knowing that he can conquer your inhibitions and liberate your desires can be a powerful aphrodisiac.

So now you know what you should do. Or rather, what you should say. Go basic. Appeal to his barest, most carnal urges when you talk and make him feel like a King!

Stimulate his ears. Stir up his imagination. Let him anticipate every word you promise to make him feel. Invite him with your words and let him in turn, invite you to the feast. He will reward you with his undivided attention. You will have your captivated man so entranced with your talking dirty, he will never think of looking anywhere else to satisfy his basest desires.