But talking dirty is not about saying a bunch of corny dirty talk phrases to your man and hoping that they turn him on without making you feel embarrassed of your dirty talk.  Talking dirty is more about finding the right dirty talk phrases that speak directly to YOUR man and his unique sexual desires.

Start with dirty talk phrases he’s familiar with already and already trigger a sexual reaction from him when they enter his ears.  Any words he already associates with sex (i.e. body parts, actions, reactions, etc) are the first words you should include in your dirty talk phrases because he already interprets them sexually.

Dirty talk phrases break down into the following categories:

Dirty talk phrase 1:  Questions

Asking him questions like “do you like that?” as you’re pleasing him is a great first-step dirty phrase to start from.  Your active attention and obvious concern for his pleasure is arousing to a man simply for the fact that, by doing so, he knows you’re paying attention to him, and your “head is in the game” 

Dirty talk phrase 2:   Confessions

Talking dirty while being pleased comes in the form of confessing your pleasure and the extent in which he’s making you feel good.  Essentially, your confessions are the answers to his question of “Does she like what I’m doing?” which is in his head far before he gets the courage to ask.  The same goes for saying “I want you to” and giving him direction in bed.  By talking dirty with confessions, you’re reassuring him of how good he is in bed so there is no doubt in his mind what-so-ever.

Dirty talk phrase 3:  Commands

Learning how to talk dirty with commands is probably the most fun dirty talk phrases you will use because you basically get to boss him around at your will.  Even aggressive men who like to stay in control are aroused by a woman commanding him sexually as an expression of her own selfish sexual desire.  A confident women who’s in control of her own sexuality has no problem commanding her lover to please her in any way she see’s fit.  And what most women don’t realize is that men appreciate the guidance just as much as you like to see him deliver the goods.

Smart women across the globe understand that its not even the words or dirty phrases that matters, it’s the context in which you use them in your dirty talk that count.  Your best dirty talk phrases will come naturally once you know how to apply them in the right place, at the right time.  Knowing how the dirty dialogue unfolds is your secret “cheat code” to talking dirty to your man in a way that pleases him and keeps him begging for more.

You want your boyfriend to talk dirty to you, but what if your boyfriend is not comfortable about this and thinks it is silly and cheesy? Some guys just find it hard to talk dirty to the woman he loves.

I have a girlfriend that is in a wonderful relationship with a great guy. They are so in love and attracted to each other and it seems to be perfect. She would sometimes send naughty little text messages to him hoping that he would reciprocate, but he never seems to respond well.

You are in love with your boyfriend but feel that you are getting frustrated and tied up in this area. Simply tell your boyfriend what you want him to say to you that will make you feel good and he should understand. Many guys are bad at picking up hints so you have to express your feelings directly.

If your boyfriend has different views on this issue, then I will suggest taking it slow and not show your displeasure. Pressing him to do something when he is not in the mood or making him feel uneasy is only going to make him stressed. When he feels that he is in control or at his comfort level, then he’ll probably start talking dirty to you in bed.

Remember that you can’t change him overnight. Firstly, ask yourself this, do you sound sexy, fun and gentle? Have you tried to arousing him? Maybe he just lacks the courage or imagination to do it.

Get your guy to open up with the ‘Talk Dirty Manual’. Download and send him a copy to let him know what you’re up to. The next time he’ll probably have some ideas that he wants to say to you. So give him space and time to get comfortable first and don’t be pushy.

There is a lot of couple in fact, they not knowingly, fall into some of these common traps. You need to avoid these blunders when you talk dirty and embarrass yourself.

Many women are turned off by the porn movies they see; don’t try to emulate what you see on the screen. Remember you are not like those porn stars.

Be sincere and do not try to impress your man when you talk dirty to him. Telling him that “your cock is so huge”, when actually is only not more than three inches long. Doesn't make sense!! It isn’t going to make him feel like a macho it could backfire and upset him. Do not go overboard with exaggeration to please them. Either it can do amazing things to boost up their confidence or piss your man off.

Be sensitive, suppose if your partner with a tiny penis, you can boost the guy's confidence by telling him that his cock is rubbing your clit so perfectly or for example just like whispering to a girl with a small breast that he love putting her whole breast in his mouth. Dirty talk does give you the chance to rid any of their insecurities and encourage them to want to have more hot sex.

Talking dirty is not a must every time you make love. Surely you don’t want to use the same old phrases over and over again. It depends on the mood of both of you. If he is not in the mood or if something is bothering him, stop using dirty talk for goodness sake. He'll might end up telling you something like "ok, I've enough, please.."

If your boyfriend wants you to talk dirty to him and as starters you may feel like giving it up because you just can't turn a man wild. Dirty talk can be comical than wanting to make it erotic, it all depends on how you say it and what is said. It is an art to master and enjoyment for couples. Laugh it off if it sounds too silly at your first attempt. Do not give up yet as there are lots to learn from it.

Contrary to popular belief both men and women enjoy hearing how much their lover pleasures them. They also enjoy hearing how their partner is going to pleasure them.

Phone sex operators are usually very accommodating. Which means if you tell her or him you and your lover are interested in them talking dirty to both of you they will be happy to fulfill your request.

Try as hard as it may be to actually listen and hear what they are saying and remember it so next time you and your lover can repeat it to each other and add your own words and suggestions to go along with it. This method is used by many couples, just look at it as a new experience.

You may even learn a few new words and a new experience how to use word to pleasure your partner. For example learn a little tactic can make a big difference. If you're quiet or shy then try making your voice a little deeper and sexier when you tell your lover "Don't Stop!" These two simple words could change the whole experience if said in a different tone of voice.

A lot of men and women prefer their dirty talk to include names for their body parts that are not found in any dictionary! This is fine too if you prefer your penis to be called a c**k or your vagina to be called a "pussycat" then that's what you should refer to them as.  

Describing what it is you would like to do to your lover or have they do to you is also very effective. For example if your lover was to say to you “I want to run my tongue over every inch of your body, smelling and tasting all your sweetness as I go.” A comment like that would at least allow the imagination to start to run wild.

Talking dirty to your lover is an art so have more fun and creative. Enjoy your lovemaking tonight:)!

This type of dirty talk isn’t the kind you would want someone to overhear. If you’re the shy type then this may not be for you either.

Using descriptive sexy words and giving detailed instructions of what you want to do to your lover and what you want him to do to you will build up the excitement quickly. So be careful you don’t overdo it.

Try talking dirty before sex without touching each other. It’s even better if you can do it in the bed with all the clothes off. Its fun to see how long you can last before you completely lose yourself to the excitement and one of you are begging for it.

Start by telling your lover what you want him to do to your toes and work your way up the body. Take turns for each of the body parts. You’d be amazed at how talking about sucking on someone’s toes can be a turn on. Partially because the excitement will build the closer you get to the more sexually parts of the body.

If you both have a good sense of self control you can make a few pit stops on your way up the body, just not at the “good” spots but close. For example as your lover is telling you what he would like to do to your thigh you could show him what you want to do to his. All you have to do is gently stroke the inside of his thigh keeping your hand just out of reach of what you really want to start stroking. Remember to keep talking dirty don’t allow yourself to get caught up in the touching.

When you reach the lips you can stop talking and start making love. By this point talking dirty before sex will have served its purpose.

When a couple has been in a relationship for a long time they know each other so well that their sex lives often become boring. The couple uses same sexual positions, same foreplay, even the same conversation afterwards.

Unfortunately, for many couples this is the end of the road. Their eyes start to wander, next then their minds and many times their bodies will follow. This scenario doesn’t have to happen to you.

You can easily start to spice up your sex life by learning to talk dirty to each other. Believe it or not you already do some “dirty talking” during sex. The first misconception about talking dirty is that you have to say raunchy things to your lover. This is not true you can say sweet, loving things and achieve the same goals. When you tell your lover that you love them or that you couldn’t live without them, these are perfect examples of talking dirty without using nasty words that some men and women would find offensive.

Chances are you and your lover have been together long enough to know what words would be okay to use in bed and which words would get your face slapped or a stunned look and a quick end to a night of romance.

If you’re not sure what those words are then you need to talk about it. If talking about it is not an option then start out slowly and use appropriate words and phrases then slowly ease your way in to more sexy words.

Once you learn which words are acceptable then try adding a small fantasy to the mix. Start by asking your lover if they have a sexual fantasy (everyone does!) Use dirty talk to try and fulfill that fantasy.

If your lover has a fantasy about being caught in the act you could simply pretend you’ve been caught. The dirty talk you would use to act out this fantasy could range from a simple “What are you doing in here?!” Or if you’re a little more daring “Do you mind we are trying to (fill in the blank) in here!” Sexy words that work as well. The important part is to remember it’s a fantasy and the words you use to make it effective must coincide with acceptable words your lover will not be offended by.

The most important thing you can do to spice up your sex life is allow yourself to be comfortable and enjoy yourself. If you’re tense or nervous it will feel awkward and defeat the purpose. Just relax and let the words flow and forget that you’re “trying” to spice up your sex life. No one performs well under pressure!

Sex should be fun and trying to figure out what he wants with no help from him may be a bit discouraging. As silly as it sounds try playing a game next time you go to bed. You can play it in the form of 20 questions. You can each either have 10 questions or 20 if you prefer to play by the rules.

Ask your lover a question about he likes such as you like your neck tickled? Then tickle his neck even if he said he didn’t like it you might both be surprised if he really does.

Another fun way to know what he wants in bed is to try some role playing get a few different colored wigs and a few cute, sexy costumes and see how he reacts to them. If he enjoys this you can pick up a few costumes for him that will fulfill both your fantasies.

You can also find out a lot just by paying attention to what he watches on TV and listen to him when is talking to a friend (not eavesdropping) just listen most likely he will not being telling his buddy what he wants you to do to him in bed but you can pick up on some of your own ideas based on his conversations. For example if he is a Dallas Cowboys Fan you may want to dress up like a cheerleader.

There are so many subtle ways to find out what your man wants in bed you just have to pay attention and use your imagination just a little. You may even be surprised at what you can come up with when you combine his interests with your own. If all else fails just ask him most men are more than happy to tell you exactly what they want!

Men are often thought of as “horn dogs” they want one thing and one thing only THEIR organism! That’s not true at least not in 99% of all committed relationships. The majority of men are more eager to please the woman than themselves.

The best way to turn your lover on and talk dirty to him is to share your secret fantasies with him. Don’t even say you don’t have a secret fantasy! In the event you really don’t then you need to get one and fast!

The secret to sharing your fantasy even if it’s about Keanu Reeves AND Patrick Swayze and involves the three of you on a deserted island with a shipwrecked boat full of adult toys, you have to be a little discrete and pretend that Keanu and Patrick don’t really exist and it’s just you and your lover on the island full of adult toys. I think you get the picture and technically it’s not lying because your lover isn’t going to tell you that Jennifer Aniston and Halley Berry just showed up too!

Spend a few minutes talking about what the two of you would do on the island of adult toys. Then have him share his fantasy with you. By now both of you should be turned on.

At this point it’s fun to tease him a little and let his imagination carry him away once he’s sufficiently turned on continue to tell him a little story of the two of you and your island adventure. Encourage him to do the same about his fantasy and before you know it you both be swept up in your secret fantasy world having awesome sex.

Turning your lover on by talking dirty using your fantasies can continue as a story each time you climb into bed. When you finish one fantasy you can move on to another one.

If you want to be successful at talking dirty to your boyfriend you need to be able to follow through with the actions.

If you tell your boyfriend you want to make wild passionate love to him, and not keeping what you said he'll be disappointed.

Make sure the time is right to talk dirty and if you can’t follow through with the actions at that time make sure he knows how you’re planning to, this will lead to anticipation and anticipation leads to excitement and awesome sex.

It’s not important what you say but how you say it. A simple “I can’t wait to get you out of those clothes.” Whispering it in his ear just before dinner will give him something to think about. This works real well if you’re having dinner with people you really don’t want to be with. It can take the edge off and your dinner will go much smoother and quicker and neither of you will leave in a bad mood because you have something to look forward to.

Make sure when you’re talking dirty to your boyfriend you put a little emotion or feeling into what you’re saying. If you just look at him and say “I want to undress you with my teeth.” He might not be too thrilled with your dirty talk. You need to say it like you mean it and plan on following through with it!

An important note worth mentioning is there is a proper place and time to talk dirty to your boyfriend. Some women say they talk dirty to their boyfriends when their favorite sports team is losing. The same is true when he has had a bad day at work. He’s thinking about how to fix a problem and here you are only annoying him by suddenly talking dirty to him.

The best advice I can offer you about talking dirty to your boyfriend is to make sure the timing is right!

Adult toys such as handcuffs and silky blindfolds can help. Being handcuffed and blindfolded while sprawled out naked on the bed while your lover has his way with you can certainly add some sizzle to any sex life. The feeling of having no control is enough to arouse most men and women, assuming of course that you feel safe and comfortable with your lover.

Push his buttons believe it or not men have more than one button they like pushed. If you haven’t discovered his sensitive spots it’s time to do so. Try the back of his neck or behind his ears, the inside of the uppermost part of his thigh usually has a button too.

Men love their women who know how to give him a good massage on their bodies with oil.  Try giving him a good massage and I'm sure you will turn him on, he'll enjoy and love it, you need practice and I’m sure he will not protest!

Allow him to experiment on you, surely you must have some sensitive spots he hasn’t discovered yet, you may not even know where they are. Be adventurous and just let loose.

There is something to be said for the 10 minute quickie which is better performed anywhere except the bed! The element of excitement you will get from having sex in the bathroom or the kitchen is enough to make you reconsider the old notion of a quickie not meaning much.

Have sex in the morning or afternoon you can achieve the same results whether the sun is shining or the moon is beaming. The same is true for outdoors if your backyard is private why not throw down a blanket under the oak tree or see if that hammock can really hold 300 pounds!

If you think this will keep your sex life sizzle then why not try it! Your sex life has been a bit boring all along and you just never realized it!